Based on my experience and observations within, I think the main mechanisms by which people become addicted to and are harmed by it are :- Do I feel socially awkward or have trouble connecting with people after I have been active in findom? This is not something I’m making up by the way! And I’ll provide links at the end to rehab clinics for substance abuse which draw these models out. It’s all about her. Financial subs don’t expect to have sex with their “goddess.” Instead he promises to be in a findom’s life strictly for her profit and pleasure. This is never a two-way street. A draw or trigger to participate (this can literally just be “feeling horny” once addiction has set in)

She can dictate not just his expenditures, but his every move! Seasoned findoms are able to tell when a man craves being completely controlled. In such cases, she’ll tell her guy what to eat, approve his daily wardrobe choices, and green light or disapprove all expenditures. An experienced findom’s end goal isn’t merely being important to her pay pig — it’s running every aspect of his life. Again, the “many” here is anecdote. But whatever the case actually is data wise, we can clearly see, the outputs of this in Tweets VERY regularly. I've seen dommes lead subs into bankruptcy, maxing out credit cards, taking out a second mortgage on a house, stealing money, and even prostituting themselves for cash. It's these men who get trapped, because they actually enjoy the suffering—it's part of their fetishization for humiliation and degradation. And their guilt for their poor life choices can also inadvertently reinforce their desire and need to seek out more experiences with their dommes. It's is a vicious circle. It seems addiction has become a kink in its own right within “the community” and it doesn’t take long for you to find the Tweets relating to it.Nero-chemical addiction from validation, attention, porn/sexual activity and fulfilling traditional gender roles Unfortunately, for some, this fetish can turn into an unhealthy obsession. Through my online support group, I've met with subs who have lost everything to accommodate the lifestyle of their goddesses. Their addictions have ravaged their finances, relationships, religious affiliation, and physical and emotional health with the same intensity that an addiction to drugs, alcohol, or gambling would. For those that become badly addicted, it’s not hard to also imagine how the addiction itself it may contribute outright to depression? There are many reasons men become involved in the findom world. Some say the thrill of having a woman demand money and expensive things can be addictive, others that they enter a place where they can forget their worries during an exchange. Whatever it looks like on the surface, the following are a list of just some of the underlying causes of this problem: Ridicule is the best medicine. For most men, hearing a haughty young woman laugh and call them a “loser” would be the ultimate mood-killer. But for pay pigs, such insults will likely result in an erection. Being called a “pathetic old creep” is a particularly potent remark in the findom community. These men don’t feel preyed upon; instead, they are highly aroused.

In fact, online findom is only going to grow in popularity as more and more teenage boys grow up with free and easy access to porn. And not just in your country, but around the world. Developing countries just beginning to get connected by technology will run into the exact same problem.

Sisterhood is powerful. Findoms are enormously supportive of one another, willing to share tips or compare “pay pigs.” These like-minded young ladies network and share stories about big pay-offs from “human wallets”…or others who’ve disappointed or disappeared on them. In terms of validation, I don't think that applies to me since I don't have trouble with women and have had a girlfriend for a year currently. I would even lie about myself to a potential findomme and put myself down just because I want to be humiliated and bullied for something. It has made me a bit self destructive.