Lai kā ar stāstiem un fantāzijām gribētos radīt sev pasauli, kurā zinām, kāpēc esam te, zinām jēgu, mērķi, Paul Gilbert piedāvā, ka tā nav bijusi neviena mūsu izvēle te būt, ka tā nav bijusi neviena mūsu izvēle būt tieši tādiem, kādi esam. Tā nav nedz mūsu vaina, nedz nopelns. Tomēr tā ir mūsu izvēle un iespēja paņemt atbildību un piedzīvot labāko iespējamo sevi, nodzīvot labāko iespējamo dzīvi. A great introduction into what compassion is and how we can put compassion in place in our own lives for ourselves and others benefit. It is written in a way that is easily accessible, although for anyone with prior knowledge of the subject I wonder if it would seem very simplified.

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If you want one recipe to make you unhappy, it would be to focus on the things you criticize or don’t like about yourself.” To save this article to your Google Drive account, please select one or more formats and confirm that you agree to abide by our usage policies. If this is the first time you used this feature, you will be asked to authorise Cambridge Core to connect with your Google Drive account. A lot of the science in the book was something I found quite interesting. For example the fact that aside from the threat and excitement system, animals also have a soothing/contentment system which basically means they don't worry when there is nothing to specifically worry about. Humans spend little time in this zone because we are wired to think about threat all the time - much more so than anything pleasurable. Learning about this helped me feel less frustrated about myself and more normal when I'm being a 'worrywart'. Eradicating bad feelings can never be the end goal as they are part of our basic make-up and serve a purpose, but we can be kinder to ourselves about feeling them. We need to recognize, however, that when we accept ourselves as we are, and life as it is, we may find it easier to find peace and contentment within ourselves. This is absolutely not a position of passive, defeated resignation but rather it is about looking around to see what we can do now with what we’ve got. It’s about ‘being in the moment’ as opposed to living in regret and with ‘if onlys’ or ‘isn’t it unfair’ or ‘I could have been . . .” Paul Raymond Gilbert OBE (born 20 July 1951) is a British clinical psychologist. Gilbert is the founder of compassion focused therapy (CFT), compassionate mind training (CMT) and the author of books such as The Compassionate Mind: A New Approach to Life's Challenges [2] and Overcoming Depression. [3]

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Gilbert P & Irons, C. (2004). A pilot exploration of the use of compassionate images in a group of self-critical people. Memory, 12, 507-516.

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So it's easy to see why alot of people are not feeling themselves during this crazy time it is because your fears (self protection and threat system) are higher than your pleasures (incentives and resources system) therefore not being able to feel content. The definition of compassion used by the Compassionate Mind Foundation is "...a sensitivity to suffering in self and others with a commitment to try to alleviate and prevent it."

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When the Dalai Lama first came to the West, he was stunned by the levels of self-dissatisfaction, self-disappointment, self-criticism and self-dislike he encountered. For all our technology and comforts, he found us a people in conflict with ourselves.”

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In societies that encourage us to compete with each other, compassion is often seen as a weakness. Striving to get ahead, self-criticism, fear, and hostility towards others seem to come more naturally to us. Gilbert, P. (2003). Evolution, social roles, and differences in shame and guilt. Social Research: An International Quarterly of the Social Sciences 70, 1205-1230 To save this article to your Dropbox account, please select one or more formats and confirm that you agree to abide by our usage policies. If this is the first time you used this feature, you will be asked to authorise Cambridge Core to connect with your Dropbox account. This book explains our brains have 3 systems for survival. Self protection and threat (fears) , Incentives and resources (pleasures) and being content. We need to keep fears and pleasures balanced to feel content.Receiving kindness, gentleness, warmth and compassion tells the brain that the world is safe and other people are helpful rather than harmful. Receiving kindness, gentleness, warmth and compassion improves our immune system and reduces the levels of stress hormones. Receiving kindness, gentleness, warmth and compassion helps us to feel soothed and settled and is conducive to good sleep. Kindness, gentleness, warmth and compassion are like basic vitamins for our minds.” If anyone wants to borrow this I'm happy to give you it 😊 it's a book I'd definitely recommend to give more understanding of how the mind works and how to be more compassionate to yourself I found the first part of the book helped me put some of my experiences into a more rational and compassionate perspective. There are a few exercises that could be used by therapists working with clients, to support clients in developing and growing a compassionate part to themselves. Particularly clients who are very critical about themselves and others. Gilbert, P. (2000). Social mentalities: Internal ‘social’ conflicts and the role of inner warmth and compassion in cognitive therapy. In, P. Gilbert & Bailey K.G (eds.) Genes on the Couch: Explorations in Evolutionary Psychotherapy (p.118-150). Hove: Brenner-Routledge. Gilbert, P. (1997). The evolution of social attractiveness and its role in shame, humiliation, guilt and therapy. British Journal of Medical Psychology, 70, 113-147.

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It does contain worksheets for anyone interested in carrying out compassion exercises but the exercises are scattered throughout the book and it would be difficult to devise a programme as there are so many of them. The Compassionate Mind Foundation promotes an evolutionary and bio-psycho-social informed approach to compassion which now forms the basis of a psychotherapy ( CFT) and Compassionate Mind Training. We are a species that has evolved to thrive on kindness and compassion. The challenge is to recognize the importance of kindness and affection and place them at the center of our relationship with ourselves, with others, and the world." Gilbert, P., Clarke, M., Kempel, S. Miles, J.N.V. & Irons, C. (2004). Criticizing and reassuring oneself: An exploration of forms style and reasons in female students. British Journal of Clinical Psychology 43, 31-50.when we give up blaming and condemning ourselves (and others) for things then we are freer to genuinely set sail towards developing the insight, knowledge and understanding we need to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions. Learning and practising compassion will help us feel more content and at peace with ourselves and also more concerned for others.” Mūsu smadzenes - tik burvīgas un murgainas vienlaikus. Iemācās baudīt ciešanas, baidās no maiguma, netic, pārprot, dzird domas, "neredz" realitāti. Tomēr ir arī veids, kā līdzēt sev, savai dzīvei un citiem - laipnība un iejūtība.