Your man MIGHT (and again not all crossdressers feel this way) want to be sexually treated like a woman when he is wearing lingerie or dressed from wig to heels.

He says he only likes to wear lingerie and insists he does not want to transition or wear other clothes. The fetishistic side of men wearing lingerie has been a staple for decades and it will be for a very, very, very long time. I want to be sincere and real when it comes to this side of us, whether it’s how humbling and how wonderful who we are is, or how to accept that passing isn’t real and that the world loves us and hates us more than we could possibly imagine. Your relationship is YOUR relationship and I would never presume to be THE voice of authority when it comes to relationships, crossdressing, or when these two worlds collide.The sad thing about not coming out is that we often lie to our wives, the very people with whom we should be the most honest. For some of us we look at clothes as just something that can be worn and we don’t care if a piece of clothes is designed for a man or a woman. Counseling can be very beneficial, not only for the two of you as a couple, but also as individuals.

She stood me back so she could look at me, and just before awkwardness could take over, she pulled me to her, pulled me tight and kissed me passionately, caressing my manhood.My biggest concern, aside from what I already mentioned about violence against him… if that if we ever have a kid… what will happen when we reach the point that our child starts school, starts interacting with other kids without our supervision, etc. In my case, the inclination to crossdress was present in me from a very, very early age and I experience it as an integral part to the way I express and understand myself. But please know, and even take solace in this if it helps, transgender doesn’t always mean transitioning or taking estrogen or feeling you are in the wrong body. If you have a difficult time believing him about *this* please know that this is understandable and expected.

The bra was tight, maybe a bit small, as it cut a bit into my midriff, and the straps were forming a groove on my shoulders. As I came out from the kitchen, to my horror, my wife was standing there with a bra in her hand which somehow I had missed to hide. When I went to college I did not have the opportunity to dress until I was able to get an apartment with one of my sisters friends who was living in the same city. Regardless of WHY he’s dressed the way he is in bed, if it makes you uncomfortable or you simply don’t like it, then he should stop. The clothes themselves, although culturally coded to the rule, are really just things, objects that people use for various purposes at different times — a kilt and a sarong are skirts but a man wearing either isn’t usually considered crossdressed.Those qualities in others for which we either feel attraction or aversion are neither good nor bad, they just are. Then Jessica comes home and catches him dressed in gorgeous, intricate women's lingerie, staring at his muscular physique in the bedroom mirror. We actually had a room in our house that we told our friends was a college students that we rented our room to. I then decided to get my wife’s wedding lingerie and wear it under the gown so I would look the part.

Second, thanks so much to you and your wife for sharing your views and advice, it’s nice to see that some SO’s are supportive and me and my wife love each other so I’m sure we’ll work something out. If she wants to do this full time and be with a feminine looking man (and assuming that you're NOT that), then you're right to be confused by it all.

She started to have more responsibility at work and would have to fly out without much notice sometimes. I also believe that while some people are inveterate assholes, most are either so busy going about their own lives they either don’t give you much thought or they are kind and compassionate. I do have one salmon colored sweater with an adorable hedgehog on the front that he likes, and is welcome to borrow, but I’m pretty sure it’d be too big.