Living with the Dominator

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I was aware of some aspects due to a previous job but would definitely recommend all to read this book, not just for yourself but to recognise friends or family members who may be suffering. The pack is available to purchase as a download from Vimeo Films and can be used in power point presentations. Another of our facilitators uses them for her Freedom Programme for women with learning disabilities. In fact, most of the women involved with such men had no real understanding of what was happening to them.

What to look out for, usual signs delves into the mind of The Dominator and why women can feel so confused and tells women how to get out of these horrific situations. Women should stay at home and not have a life of their own’ – isolates us from our family/friends, stops us from working. I feel that the negative comments towards social workers in the course content do not help instil confidence in our ability to help and support them either and think they so may confirm fears of survivors and make them reluctant to seek support when needed.It can help readers of any age and sexual orientation to change their own behaviour and to recognise when they are being controlled. Living with the Dominator' is concise but insightful, accessible to anyone who wants to learn more about toxic relationships, and grounded in Craven's experiences as a probation officer. When I was a Probation Officer I ran courses for male 'perpetrators’ of violence against women and children.

This included other ‘professionals’ and the women and girls whose lives could be changed or even saved if they were just given this vital information. As it is a rolling programme you can start the programme at any point and can catch up on any missed sessions when they are repeated.

There are many elements of abusive dynamics that people rarely consider, and the links to wider society and how abusers' beliefs can become internalised in everyone were really interesting to me. A woman should provide services and act as an unpaid servant’ – does nothing around the house to help, Burn everything he cooks. Unfortunately, much of the book seems like a list of rather specific anecdotes with limited reference to the psychology of the "man" and how it affects his actions. My only criticism is that every scenario is “worst case scenario” it doesn’t really touch upon the “everyday” cases of mental or physical abuse or dare I phrase it is the mental abuse that is accepted as “normal”.

Without the support and constant reassurance of Sharon, I know for a fact that I wouldn’t be where I am today.As a result, we have received several requests from schools, police, judges, lawyers, social workers and our many Freedom Programme Facilitators to amalgamate all the animations and create an audio-visual pack. The 11-week programme is open to women 17+ who want to learn more about the reality of domestic violence and abuse in relationships. If attending our face to face sessions you will receive a free copy of ‘Living With The Dominator’ and a copy of The Home Study Workbook which is a supplement to ‘Living With The Dominator’. We don’t know what the right thing to say or do is and when we think we have worked it out, we are still wrong – hence the saying ‘Walking on eggshells’!