Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto

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Boyslut is a memoir-manifesto in which Zane articulates that, even today, we live in a world that shames people for the sex that they have and the sexualities that they inhabit. That sort of honest self-acceptance is an antidote to all the sex-negative crap going down all over the world. There were parts of his story that he took time with and seemed to really show us the vulnerable process of it all and then others where his humor and bluntness sort of seemed almost to deflect from any real insight to what he was talking about.

I wanted to give more direct advice; give my take on larger cultural phenomena and trends, create more of a movement. I recommend it as a perspective - maybe an extreme one - on understanding current bisexual male culture. It offers great insight on how to deal with peoples relationship with porn, hook up apps and your personal relationships, and how to keep them separate from one another. World premieres include Douglas Stuart's Shuggie Bain, Maddie Mortimer's Maps of Our Spectacular Bodies and Maggie O'Farrell's The Marriage Portrait. We recently featured a very popular interview with Zachary on our Instagram Live, in which he opened up about his sexual experiences, exploring polyamory, orgies, anonymous encounters and his thoughts on how to lead a fulfilling sex life in a long-term relationship, not to mention bi-visibility and dismantling toxic masculinity.He attended the "Bisexual White House Briefing" at the White House (under Obama) and has been featured as an expert on a number of podcasts, including "The Savage Lovecast" and “Whoreible Decisions. I’ve questioned people and dismissed their bisexuality out right as simply “on their way to gay” Learning from firsthand experience how much this affects people of this sexuality was humbling. I want to give bi people who have also struggled [advice on] how to respond, when to respond, and when not to respond. For other publications, I’m often writing ‘Intro 101’, assuming other people know nothing about my topic. Boyslut ‘is a series of personal and tantalizing essays articulating how our society still shames people for the sex they have and the sexualities they inhabit.

For the first time in centuries, I think the world is ready for the communicative, openly sexual, nontoxic Boyslut. Several of the discussions throughout the four sections could have been expanded to really hammer home messages or make insightful analyses. As a leading bisexual activist, Zane has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy.

This book invites you to reflect on your sexual identity and approach to such conversations; how societal programming enforces a feeling of shame when discussing sex. So if you are in the mood for a series of advice colums, arranged artfully and well written, check this one out, and lets see if we can get it into every library in the US; but for me it went on a good bit too long. In a book like this that people reach for often to try to connect in quite a vulnerable way (either to connect with the authors lived experience or to reach for a better understanding of their own identity through someone else’s experiences) this is such a flawed tone of voice to take. this is mainly a manifesto about how everyone wants to sleep with zachary zane, with all the insights you’d expect from a successful cis white guy who thinks being bisexual makes him an authority on queer issues. Great for anyone wanting info for themselves or ideas on how to start conversations with loved ones.

I felt familiar, I felt like there were parts where I wanted to just shake the book because yes, finally someone else who understands.com/damianbarrliterarysalon/ 8pm-9pm GMT May 9th 2023 for a Salon Insta Live Special hosted by Uli Lenart from Gay’s the Word. But labor conditions for sex workers are generally suboptimal, and to leave that unacknowledged and unaddressed strikes me as careless, as in uncaring. I agree with most of the reviews on here about the author's refusal to wear condoms regardless of his numerous STIs. An enlightening read, though you'll be able to tell if this book is for you within the first 20 pages (let's be real, you'll be able to tell by just reading the glossary). Of course sometimes it might be confusing, but the confusing part is where you usually realize that you are attracted to the same sex or other gender not only women (from a man's point of view).