Tapping into the idea of focusing on the moment will certainly help with this,’ adds Tracey, ‘along with exploring what sexually stimulates them – or even by finding alternative routes to arousal.’ Greg: ‘I expect absorbency is a factor. A chocolate coating would certainly help, and perhaps some sort of sweet filling.’ I'm working on the follow up, that will take a while (at least trying to, all these updates have been time consuming) Even during other sensual forms of touch, you’re able to experience the benefits of the feel-good hormones that are released during erotic stimulation.’

Mindful sex includes many different practices, methods, and exercises (some of which we've already covered). To oversimplify a bit, it basically applies sexuality to the core principles and exercises of mindfulness (like meditation). And it's also an especially powerful solo practice. Immerse yourself in any type of sensory play, really. Use an ice cube or low-temperature, body-safe massage oil and wax candles. Bring different textures into the mix, luxuriating in how silk feels on your skin, running a downy feather all over, or venturing into some light pain territory with a pinwheel. If those are too out there, experiment with lubes focused on different sensory experiences, especially cannabis-infused lube. (Be sure to look up some guides on which type to use and how to use them properly.) Games that try to simulate real-world activities (like driving vehicles or living the life of someone else) with as much realism as possible. Simulators generally require more study and orientation than arcade games, and the best simulators are also educational. Greg: ‘Yeah, one of my favourite bits about growing up was learning that there was nothing to be ashamed of, and we basically all do it.’The differences in intensity and textures will help to enhance stimulation during masturbation, boosting the chances of orgasm.’ But seriously, use masturbation as an occasion to shower your body in love. There's research showing a positive link between positive body image and sexual satisfaction. Achieving that is a lot easier said than done. But certain masturbation exercises can really help you embody the fact that you are worthy of and deserve deeper pleasure (we'll get into that more in the mindful masturbation section below).

Everyone seemed to prefer preventing the start, so we went ahead and figured we'd hear it if it was actually a problem. There we are I suppose. Virtual Succubus contains many different JOI “mechanics” taking inspiration from all kinds of content.Many aspects of the game are procedurally generated to avoid seeing the exact same thing too often, even if you play daily! That's one case where this new era of working from home can be beneficial: Consider replacing your usual afternoon yoga lunch break with, well, something you'll want to do on your personal rather than work laptop. Get off to different porn (or your own imagination) Perhaps you already masturbate using a vibrator or dildo, but the options for exploration don’t end there. If you’re a man, and you want to level up your jerking off, here’s how. Experiment with different lubes Will I be judged for saying I masturbate? Will I look silly for not knowing how to pleasure myself? Will it be seen as a failing on my part, or offend my partner if they think I’m unsatisfied? These are the questions we ask ourselves, creating an air of worry around something that’s supposed to be fun.

While you're in the process of immersing yourself in these new sensations, exercises, and experiments, keep a little masturbation captain's log to debrief and analyze your experiences. It doesn't need to be much. Just the act of giving yourself the space and time to really analyze your pleasure can do wonders to up your masturbation game in the long run. Find out what you love in bed and enjoy giving yourself the experiences you deserve just for the sake of it. Having fears or moral views around pornography is valid, although those who’ve written off erotica completely are missing out.She also recommends giving temperature play a go. ‘Run an ice cube over your body or cool a glass dildo under running water,’ says Ness, adding that you can ‘mix it up a bit by adding warmer items, such as a metal sex toy warmed by a hot tap before play.’ Virtual Succubus is a deeply customizable Jerk Off Instructions experience with your personal Femdom AI. Layered tasks composed of multiple different kinky aspects, procedurally generated text prompts, and countless more aspects of every session you participate in! And remember, the beauty of pleasuring yourself is that you’re not being watched or judged – and you have full permission to let go and follow wherever your desires take you. Change your routine RuPaul may have said ‘if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?’ – but why even centre someone else’s pleasure?

Greg: ‘…and ended up literally broiling the poor Pony – ‘Rainbow Dash’, I believe – in spunk. To the point his jizz actually caramelised, and turned brown.’ Various games have already taken the "sync a toy to the beat" approach, so I wanted to try something different! It can be fun to think of yourself almost like a scientist, framing each masturbation experiment as a question, then testing that hypothesis, then writing about the results after. When it’s around half full (or half empty, depending on your outlook) the gang sit in a circle and pass it around, each in turn removing the lid and inhaling the putrid stench therein deeply. We also really recommend the kind of porn that offers higher production value, better storytelling, and much more expansive visions of eroticism. There's a growing, exciting new world of alternative, women-led visual porn out there (we've written about these options many times before), but a recent one we've been jazzed about is FrolicMe. Or use more education-oriented platforms that up your masturbation game, like OMG Yes or O.school.While trying out a lot of these new tips, don't think of climax as the ultimate goal of your masturbation session. It puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on yourself and distracts from the fun process of exploration. Success during a self-love session is simply learning more about what you like and don't like. And, counterintuitively, you'll actually be more likely to reach orgasm if you're not actively thinking or trying to get there.